New book….

I’m reading a book called Letters to a Bullied Girl.  This is incredible!  So many people carry the scars of bullying.  The topic was the front page of People magazine!  It’s been all over CNN and there are symposiums being put together on this subject.  For the love of Pete, PARENTS, GET INVOLVED!  Your precious little angel may very well be torturing some poor child!

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Some background here…

I’m the mum of 4 kids.  My eldest daughter, Kate is 25.  She was 12 weeks premature and was in and out of hospital for her early years.  She’s always been a fighter.  She’s also rather small but prefers to describe herself as “fun-size”.  Mary-Christina is 23.  She was 7 weeks premature.  She’s had vision problems her whole life and is so tiny that we think she is still her birth weight.  She tries to act like she’s this feisty little person but in reality, she’s very gentle.  My youngest daughter, Meaghan, is very centered in that SHE is the center of her universe!  lol  She is the most moralistic of my children.  She’s ultra conservative and steady as a heartbeat.  She is also 17 and knows everything.   Then there is my son, Paul.  My boy is 12 years old.  He is the largest of my children and an absolute joy to me.  My gentle giant.  He is bright, funny and has a dry wit that can be hard for some to take.  He has this deep, growly voice that is so strange coming from a young boy.  He is single minded and so focused.  And he’s obsessed with trains.  I’ve encouraged my children to be true to themselves and be individuals.  As a society, we like to brag how we’re all individuals but are we?  Then why do we scorn those who are different than us?  In reality, most of us are just lemmings waiting to run off the cliffs and plunge into the sea.

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How it began….

Okay, this all started when my son came home last Tuesday.  He was very despondent and sat on the stool in the kitchen and looked at me and said “Mom, I’m miserable”.  I was stunned!  I asked him what happened and he said that things were so bad at school that he wanted me to pull him out of his private, parochial school and send him somewhere else.  He even asked me if homeschooling was an option.  It’s not since I work.  He explained to me that the kids at school were calling him gay and ganging up on him.  He said it was taking place at lunch, in the classroom, at recess, in the halls, everywhere.  I called the school and left a message for his principal.  Funnily enough, she checked in to see if there were any messages that evening and returned my phone call.  We had a very long discussion on the phone.  I’ll get in to the actual conversation and the individual incidences in later blogs.  I made an appointment to see her on the Friday, since I wasn’t working and we left it at that.  I then looked up a column by Regina Brett that the principal had referenced and was shocked at what was going on.  I ended up researching this topic and got so involved I was up until nearly 1:00 a.m. reading first hand accounts.  When you get up at 4:20 a.m. to go to work, it must be some pretty intense material!  My question is why is this happening?!  Then I looked at the shows on tv and thought about it.  I thought about what we, as a society, as a community could do about this.  I have some thoughts and ideas, some are pretty extreme and I have my doubts as to whether or not many parents would go along with them, but it’s a start.  My question to everyone is “Do you think your child could be a bully?”  I wonder how many parents really know their kids and what they are capable of!  Another thing I would ask parents to do is to reread “Lord of the Flies”.  That is a perfect example of bullying and mob mentality which is what takes over these kids!  There is a book out there that school administrators are using as their handbook “The Bully, the Bystander and the Bullied”.  Or something like that.  I don’t think it goes far enough.  We need to teach our children to be Champions!  To champion the bullied child!  Having someone stand up for them, stand by them can be such a positive thing for a victimized child!  Don’t we want our children to be champions?  I know I do!

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Hello world!

This blog is specifically for the topic of bullying.  This has become epidemic today!  I will go into more about this a little later but for right now, I just wanted to get this set up.

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